Self-Guided Afterlife Connections





One has to learn the art of looking, observing.

- Jiddu Krishnamurti

Understanding Your Mind

This explanation will help you understand that your mind has a variety of characteristics that are decidedly different from each other. Especially important is natural unfoldment, in which things come into your mind without your conscious intention to have them come.

Nature of Your Mind

We use our minds effortlessly, without straining to think or remember. We developed our minds from having very limited ability in infancy, to having a rich array of abilities in adulthood that we use adeptly.


The director of our minds is our intention. We intend to recall a memory and it miraculously comes to us, in much the same form as it was when it was formed by experience. We intend to create something new, and novel thoughts come to us. We intend to lift an arm and the body obeys the mind's command immediately. Using our intention, we navigate through life and learn the lessons we are to learn in Earth school.

Unintentional Images, Thoughts, Feelings, Bodily Sensations, and Messages

However, some of what comes into the mind comes without our intention. Unintended images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages come in deep-sleep dreams, hypnogogic dreaming (when half awake), inspirations or flashes of insight, notions, and inspirations. They unfold without our intention to have them come. This entry into our minds is termed free unfoldment. We don't control free unfoldment. Our language has a number of words or phrases to describe their coming to us, because they're so common. We might describe their coming to us by saying "It just came to me" or "I suddenly realized" or "I had a flash of inspiration" or "the light bulb went on."

We have these freely unfolding images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages all the time, and so we believe they're coming from inside our minds somehow. We call them "my imagination." We have words for this belief that we created these unusual insights: "I thought it up" or "I imagined it," or "I dreamed it up." But neuroscience has no explanation for how something that wasn't in our memory or experience could suddenly come to us. The reason it can't be explained is that these unusual insights don't come from us. They come from some source outside of our minds.

The sources of these unusual images, thoughts, or messages are our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source. They all communicate with us continually, throughout the day.

We Have to Learn to Acknowledge and Process the Natural Unfoldment

The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.

- Albert Einstein

We receive these images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages regularly, throughout the day. However, as a culture, we have lost the ability to acknowledge and process them. It's easier to do so when we're being creative, because we want these inspirations that we call "my imagination." However, in the rest or our lives, we reject the natural unfoldments. We regard them as irrational and unreliable. "It was just my imagination," we say.

But these unfolding images, thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and messages that are unexpected and outside of our normal thinking are coming from our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source. We are taught by our society not to regard the messages as real or valid, so we don't listen to them, and we miss many messages from our loved ones, guides, higher selves, and the Source.

This is what Jose Silva, the originator of the Silva method, wrote about our blindness and deafness to the intuition:

Somewhere along the path of evolution, humankind made a wrong turn. We lost our way and became separated from our source. We became hypnotized by the physical world. Our senses now dominate our lives. For most of us, there is nothing else except the physical world. It is a world of bodily pain, bodily pleasure, bodily comfort. It is a world of physical skills, of physical sight, sounds, smells, and tastes. Our preoccupation with the physical world has led to education that is materially oriented. Each generation has become more and more of this physical world—and less and less respectful of what cannot be seen but only intuited, imagined, or visualized.

- Jose Silva

You Must Have No Expectations

We hope that this procedure eventually will enable you to connect with your loved one. You may have read the accounts of people who have had successful connections. However, successful connections require patience and time. You must not go into your first experiences expecting a full-blown connection. If you anticipate a connection, that will block the flow of natural unfoldment that eventually will result in the connection. You must be willing for the entire session to be receiving impressions, images, and other experiences that don't seem to have any meaning. You must allow them to come in their own time, in their own way. When you're getting images or impressions that aren't meaningful, don't think "But where is she? I want to connect and she's not here!" That will shut down the natural unfolding and you will actually block your own connection. The meaningless experiences are part of the process.

Counting Yourself Out of Relaxation

In this stage of the training, you will be asked to envision scenes. Stage 3 isn't intended to make a connection. You're still in training. Be open to anything other than a connection. However, some people do have connections. If you do have a connection or want to stay in the scenes, you can do so, because the meditation music continues for 30 minutes after the narrator stops speaking. All you have to do is stay relaxed with your eyes closed while the experience unfolds. Then emerge from the relaxation state when you're ready by counting slowly from one to five. With each count, feel yourself coming out of the relaxation and back to the room. You might say these words to yourself:

One, I am ready to come out.

Two, I am becoming aware of my body sitting in the chair.

Three, I am becoming aware of the room around me.

Four, I am ready to open my eyes and end the session.

Five, I have opened my eyes and am completely back.

After you count yourself out, you don't need to listen to the rest of the meditation music. Take the earphones off after you have counted yourself out of the relaxation.

Preparation for Activities

Set aside 15 to 30 minutes of time when you are in a quiet area without interruptions. Bring no cell phones to the area. Tell your family or others living with you that you are not to be disturbed. Wear comfor clothing, preferably without belts or other restrictions. A jogging suit is ideal.

IMPORTANT: Don't lie down. Don't recline in a recliner. You may fall asleep, and you will not be able to have a connection. Sit upright in a chair. If you want to maximize the possibility of a connection, be rested and relaxed before the session. Don't play three hours of tennis or engage in an argument with a utility company representative. Be relaxed, calm, and rested. Sit upright.

The relaxation inductions for Stage 3 are very short. You're not going into a full meditation relaxation. If you're accustomed to meditation, they will seem very short. These are just intended to relax you a little bit so you can go into the training experiences and come out after just a few minutes. You'll have longer, deeper inductions in the later stages.

The Recordings

The sound bars below will play the recordings in Windows Media Player, RealPlayer, or Quicktime, depending on which media player you have installed. Prepare Windows Media Player or RealPlayer so that the program doesn't repeat the playback when it comes to the end. The reason is that if you have a connection, your connection may continue past the time when the recording ends. You could be in the middle of a connection when it ends. If your playback program is set to repeat, it will go back to the beginning of the recording and play the opening narration. That will interrupt your connection.

To set Windows Media Player and RealPlayer so they don't repeat, follow these instructions:

In the Windows Media Player, open the Windows Media Player and click on “Play” on the toolbar across the top. You will see the option “Repeat.” Make sure it doesn't have a check mark beside it. If it does, click on "Repeat" to turn that option off. The check mark should disappear.

In RealPlayer, open the RealPlayer program. Click on the “RealPlayer” name in italics in the upper left corner, and click on “Play.” In the list of options, you will see "Continuous Play." Make sure that does not have a check mark beside it. If it does, click on "Continuous Play" and the check mark will disappear.

Now, put on the earphones and click on the "Play" arrow on the sound bar to listen to the recording. Adjust the volume on your computer so the sound is comfor to you.


If the Recordings Don't Play for You

If you have tried to link to the recordings and none play for you, click on this link to download the recordings: Download the Recordings.


Recording 1 Instructions


Recording 1 Explanation

Recording 2 Instructions

Recording 2 Explanation